I had started drafting the first post for this blog about 100 times, but nothing seemed to click. What did I want to say on my first post? How did I want to introduce myself to the world? I thought it would be something light, fluffy and fun, your typical get to know me post, but I was blocked and didn’t know what to write, so I put off writing this piece, then last night happened.
Last night Hollywood celebrated the 75th Annual Golden Globe Awards, a night that is know for its glitz and glamour and celebrates the best of the best in television and film. But yesterday was different, yesterday the focus was not so much on the glitz, but on the message these celebs, especially the women were trying to give. Unless you have been living under a rock Hollywood has been under a telescope for the last few months as some of its most powerful men have been revealed to be serious sexual offenders. With the likes of Harvey Weinstein, Louis C.K, Matt Lauer and more seeing their careers destroyed overnight. An onslaught of women have come forward to speak out against the huge problem in Hollywood of men using their power as an excuse to use women as objects. Because of this thousands of women within the industry have come together to start the Times Up Now movement, which is a unified call for change from women in entertainment for women everywhere. From movie sets to farm fields to boardrooms alike, they envision nationwide leadership that reflects the world in which we live.
For last nights award show the ladies behind Time’s Up Now asked attendees to wear black in solidarity with the movement. Some people were not happy about this, or simply didn’t understand the point. Now here is a thing, I am a huge red carpet fan, I mean I watch from beginning to end with the TV on and on my laptop at the same time looking at all the gowns, who designed them, and creating my own best dressed lists, so part of me was sad that we wouldn’t be getting any major fashion moments, but what we got was so much more empowering.
I was talking about my favorite looks with a friend today when she said she was upset about the whole thing, and didn’t get the point, as they weren’t “accomplishing anything and just making noise”. I was a little upset by her comment at first, but then I decided to sit down an write, and this is what I have to say about that.
This subject hits close to home for me. As a child I was sexually harassed by an extremely close family member. I never spoke about this to anyone until I was around 25yrs, when my younger sister (who was in therapy at the moment) asked me if I had experienced any harassment from this particular person, because she had. I actually had not thought about it until that moment, I had buried it so far in my brain that it never even occurred to me that my sister might have been a victim as well. When I look back at my life I realize that this wasn’t my only encounter with sexual harassment. My body developed at a pretty young age, I was a C cup by the time I was in 6th grade! Boys were curious and when I think back, things I thought were “boys being boys” were simply unacceptable.
Many people have criticized the movement, saying women are speaking out now after they have already won their awards, had long careers and received their paychecks and I don’t disagree with that. However, to me the Time’s Up Movement is not about Hollywood, its about every single girl or woman out there who has ever been cat called, touched, harassed, raped, paid less or treated less because of her gender
. It’s about all those women around the world that still don’t feel like they can speak up. For all those little girls, who we want to grow up to be strong, powerful, respected women. There is a window of opportunity and the time to make a change is NOW! So what were they accomplishing by wearing all black last night? They were giving hope, hope that our voices matter and will be heard. Hope for those that are terrified to speak up for what it might mean for their careers, families and in some cases, their lives. Hope that women can be equal to men, equally paid, equally treated, and equally respected. That “noise” that Hollywood creates is needed as it trickles down to the masses and gets people all over the world talking.
Time’s Up Now has started a legal defense fund that will subsidize legal support for individuals who have experienced sexual harassment or related retaliation in the workplace and in a little over a month have managed to raise over $16 million dollars. $16 MILLION DOLLARS!!! You know how much money that is?! That is in great part to the “noise” these Hollywood starlets are making. Yesterday their statement wasn’t about who they were wearing, but who they were standing for. And if that makes a handful of guys to think twice before raping, molesting, over powering or even verbally harassing a woman, well thats a win in my book.
“For too long, women have not been heard or believed if they dare speak the truth to the power of those men. But their time is up. Their time is up.” -Oprah Winfrey
If you would like to donate to Time’s Up Now, please click here.
Ingrid Fucella says
I love the award season fir the same reason as every other fashion crazy woman out there. I want to know who wears what, who looks it’s best and worst. Last night was different. Every black dress was powerful and beautiful because of the message they carried. This is well written Ruthie, and I’m sos sorry that you had to go through something so awful!!
Wow. Thank you for sharing. This generation both young and old, women and men are going to change the way people look at us, treat us, pay us, everything. 🖤
That was beautiful I’m very proud of you.
I’m so sorry you had to face something so terrible as a child. I’m so glad to see women everywhere take a stand, raise their voice. Hope is a powerful thing. Together we are stronger! Thanks for sharing your story. Looking forward to reading more from you!